I had asphyxia fantasies dating back to my early childhood. I remember being a very little kid at my grandmother’s house, and everybody was in the other room getting ready to eat. They had some random soap opera on, and I  didn’t know where the remote was (why won’t it turn itself?). I was suddenly drawn to it when I saw a man dragging a woman by the throat, choking the shit out of her. Afterwards, he left, and she grasped her sore throat, staring in the mirror, breathless. Yup. I was aroused.

When I was four or five, I had a female friend that I often choked when we play wrestled. As she said years later, that was my “weapon for her.” I also wrote a story in this blog about her.

I’ve never been the type of person that appeared to be an asphyxiaphiliac. I can please a girl easily without the choking, but it’s much better with it. I like rough, no holds barred, type of sex, and girls like it, too.

In my opinion, love of choking chicks begins at a very young age. I believe that it tends to be a combination of two fetishes: BDSM and neck fetish. We like to strangle or choke or hang because we like to punish what we love: Necks.

In my experience, asphyxia lovers tend to be normal people with unusual fetishes. I can say this observing myself. I would never really hurt a woman, let alone kill. I have plenty of friends, and too many chicks like me.

By exploring our fantasies through role play (and chokedchicks.com), we learn that we were born with powerful gifts. Name one girl that came while she was being asphyxiated and didn’t have a pretty damned good orgasm. We know what we’re doing.

I love Cansistorn’s post because it shows us that these urges start at an early age. I firmly believe that love of asphyxia, as well as numerous paraphilias, are chemical and genetic issues.

This post also shows that our behavior is sexually acceptable. Cansistorn choked his girl for hours without creeping her out. Choking during sex, especially rough sex, is extremely common, which is why I include some rough sex content on this site. We just take it to the next level.

• You can view Cansistorn’s asphyxia story here.